If you can’t see that, then that is your issue.

This is some of the worst advice I have ever seen, and I have seen a lot of bad advice. Someone comes to you with a genuine question, and you respond by telling them that there is something wrong with them because they feel a particular way. You also go on to tell them that they are incorrect for feeling a particular way. You have a responsibility to not belittle people when they come to you for advice, and to take what they say about how they feel at face value. You are not qualified to tell someone that they are not asexual, or that they are or are not anything else. That is something that ONLY THE PERSON ASKING can do. You have no right to tell someone that they are not asexual, as you do not know ANYTHING about them. I can say, however, after reading this, that you are incredibly narrow-minded, and that your response to Confused proves you are either ignorant or knowingly engaging in both concern trolling and asexual erasure.

Seriously, try replacing “asexual” with “heterosexual,” “bisexual,” “homosexual,” “pansexual,” etc and see what kind of hateful replies you get. It’s not okay to deny the existence of ANY sexual orientation, and asexuality is certainly a legitimate, albeit relatively unknown, orientation. You have no right to tell others how to live their lives, and telling someone to sleep around because you think they have a duty to let others have sex with them is just insulting, regardless of sexual orientation. That decision is up to the individual.

But what do you care? You obviously don’t care about truly helping out Confused, as you have censored comments that were left to call you out on your narrow-minded idiocy and to actually provide her with information that would actually be of help. I suppose you’ll censor me as well, and this will only prove even more that you don’t care. I just hope that Confused comes back and sees our links and comments, as we’re the ones who will truly be kind, respectful, and accepting to her. If you care even a tiny bit, you will leave our comments up so she can find a great number of resources that might help her out. I also suggest you read through our links, as you might actually learn something. I warn you, though. Asexual erasure is highly frowned upon on AVEN (the site we have been linking), and appropriate action will be taken by all bodies of our large community.

To Confused:

Firstly, I am so sorry that you got terrible advice. *hugs* There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and you are certainly not alone in feeling the way that you feel. Asexuality is simply the lack of sexual attraction, and it is quite real. If you feel that you may be asexual, I would highly suggest that you come visit us over at the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) and ask any questions that you may have. We have many resources that might be of help, and I can guarantee you that you will be met with kindness and respect. Here is the link: http://www.asexuality.org/en/

I certainly hope to see you around the forums. ^^

(Again, Viggy. If you have ANY respect for Confused, you leave our comments visible. You’re directly hurting her by censoring these posts.)

Pay attention. It is clear that Confused went to Dear Abby for help and Dr. Viggy chose to weigh in with his usual brand of nonsense.

The fact that anyone can take it seriously enough to he offended is as ridiculous as the fake advice itself. Not only did Confised not come here for help but she doesn’t know it exists, was not notified of advice and will not be back.

Lighten the fuck up.

1. Orientation is not something that can be chosen. I’m sure you’ve had quite a few comments about this so far.
2. I find you to be terribly narrow-minded. I generally do not find narrow-minded people suitable to be giving any sort of advice.
3. I feel so incredibly sorry for the person who asked for you advice on this manner, because what you just provided was not thought out, and quite full of bullshit.

I am certain that you will either delete or edit this, which is no concern of mine, I just hope that you read this and see your erroneous response as something to be ashamed of. Confused, please do visit AVEN. I’m certain that you will find the answers that you’re seeking there, in a SAFE AND FRIENDLY ENVIRONMENT, rather than being put down by a person who can not possibly understand you.http://www.asexuality.org/