i really don’t understand men… why would you think that a girl would be ready or willing to jump into a new something with you when she’s going thru heart break??? do you really think it’s a good time or that she wants to hear nice things.. i dunno maybe it’s just me and i should be flattered but it’s not what i want to hear.. i don’t want to hear i deserve better or that there is someone out there that will treat me better blah blah blah.. please just tell me like it is.. it sucks big time ( this is NOT directed to every guy thats talked to me since monday just a few)
Here we go again with the broads not able to make up their damn minds. So obviously this one is suffering through heartbreak. As is typical for the female variety, I’m sure she has been complaining about all the reasons why she she deserves to be loved and she can’t believe he did this or that and she’s basically just a mess over the whole thing. Everyone gets that way… everyone except the calm, cool, and collected Dr. Viggy, of course.
So here comes the nice guy. They guy she wants. The guy that her ex is, most certainly, not. He gives her a shoulder to cry on. He gives her a compliment. He tries to allay her fears that she’s nto going to be alone forever. He tries to boost her confidence and self-esteem. He does all the things a woman makes us believe she wants, right?
NOOOOOO…. this guy is destined for trouble in one way or another. There’s the nearly unavoidable trip to the friend zone. See the article titled “On being a nice guy” for more on that one. Then there’s the possibility that he will simply just get smacked for trying to get in her pants (even if his intentions truly are honorable). In this case, however, neither of the above happened. He’s just a jerk for not letting her be heartbroken. She’s hell bent on being miserable and she’ll be damned if she’s going to let anyone cheer her up – especially a… a… a MAN! Not after what she’s been through.
Now, let’s imagine for a moment he didn’t do any of this stuff. It would only further her cause that men suck and she doesn’t deserve better. She’d wonder where all the good guys are. When is it her turn? We have all heard the crappy cliche about always being a bridesmaid, but never a bride. Maybe the ones saying what they are saying actually ARE the good ones. When she asks for people to “please just tell me like it is” has she considered that what’s being is IS how it is? Of course not. She’s an emotional wreck, suffering from irrational energies.
The final nail in the estrogen coffin is what she put in parentheses. She said, “this is NOT directed to every guy thats talked to me since monday just a few.” What in the world makes you think that anyone else will want to talk to you after that line? You eviscerate the nice guys on the world’s largest social network and think for even a minute that someone else will step to the plate? Don’t think so.
All is not lost. Dr. Viggy has a solution for you. Take all those feelings (and your drawers) and put them aside. Let the doc fill you with good thoughts (and other things) until you’re back on your feet. I’m not being filthy. This is medical. Sex releases endorphins. You’ll feel better getting some action (chemically). You’ll get some self-esteem and confidence back by seeing you’re capable of pleasing a guy. All will be well. I’ll even let you use your tears of self pity as lubrication.
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